How Do You Deal With Turbulence?

By: George Verdolaga Career & Business 2 Comments Sep 16, 2011

A guy I know is able to work 4 days a week instead of the usual 5 and ends up having a 3-day weekend. However, he tends to complain that his weekend is still not long enough and always dreads Monday. I’m sure that even if he had a 4-day weekend, it wouldn’t make a difference and he’d still feel miserable about going to work. His problem? Toxic co-workers.

This guy is a conscientious person that likes to get the job done and then go home. He also steers clear of office politics as he knows how tiring and useless those things are. However, he relies on several co-workers for his deliverables. The problem is that several of the people in his department either refuse to play along or carry their own weight. They end up draining everyone’s time and energy.

Life can be difficult working with these types of people, and no amount of days off will make up for the emotional and mental anguish that some of the people around us create. If it’s not possible to get transferred or to move to another company, the next best thing that people can do is to simply manage their response to all the negativity surrounding them. If you have learned to develop a very quiet and serene inner core, few problems will affect you.

I recently had a chance to finally see the 2011 “Jane Eyre” film. It turns out that Jane had a difficult childhood as an orphan. She lived with a cold stepmother who treated her like a servant and cousins who liked to abuse her physically and emotionally. Eventually she is sent off to boarding school where she has to endure an unusually cruel headmistress who liked nothing more than to beat her with a stick and humiliate her in front of the entire school at the slightest provocation. However, Jane harbored no bitterness and when asked “what’s your sad story?”, she says that she had none to offer.

How’s that for inner strength and peace?

If you’d like to work on developing these, read Stephanie Dowrick’s “Choosing Happiness: Life and Soul Essentials” or Paul Wilson’s “Perfect Balance: Create Time and Space for All Parts of Your Life”.

2 Responses to “How Do You Deal With Turbulence?”

  1. Matt Chong says:

    Learning how to deal with difficult people and challenging situations is a skill that few people have. During the very beginning of my career, I used to take a lot of things personally. Over the years, I’ve learned how to navigate difficult situations by sticking to my core values and belief systems. I think a key thing here is to see everything as an impermanent situation. If you empower yourself to change the situation you are in or challenge yourself to be happier then I really do believe that you can overcome those turbulent times.

  2. george verdolaga says:

    Life can be tough if one doesn’t get along with people at work. I also try to look at the light at the end of the tunnel and try to make the best of the situation. If I can’t earn the trust and respect of my co-workers, I just shrug my shoulders and soldier on and look at the situation as a learning opportunity.

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